Frequently Asked Questions:
What is the goal or intention of having sessions with you?
I provide a safe space to address what issues are "up" for you regarding your personal sense of spiritual-sexual integration and "wholeness." Where there are blocks, contractions, limitations, or challenges to one's fullest expression and experience of intimacy, sensuality and sexuality, and deeply connected relationships—I act as a mirror and guide, helping you to see what may be unconscious, limiting beliefs and help you free that energy and feel more complete and transcendent to higher awareness and states of being. I also show you how to elevate your sexual experience to provide profound spiritual-sexual opportunities that create a new level of awareness and connection with the divine within and with your beloved.
Sessions with me provide an experience of sensual wellness, erotic enrichment, and divine embodiment. For our session, I embody the Divine Masculine archetype —expressing unconditional, transpersonal love and acceptance. My proclivity for immediate intimacy and ability to "hold-space" in support of your highest potential—seeing you as the divine being you are—is supported by my training as a Tantric Healer, Reiki Master and 25+ years experience as a spiritual counselor.
Why do you do this type of counseling focused on Sex, Intimacy & Relationship?
I am inspired to do this work by the prompting I feel from my soul. It is my life's purpose to add my energies to the healing of spirit and sex, locally and globally. We are all connected; as one person is aided to rise beyond previous limitations and achieve a more complete sense of self—all of us are enriched. I add my compassionate service in gratitude for my own journey of healing and remembering wholeness. My work is focused on healing and enriching the spiritual-sexual integration within people and between beloveds. I trust that my contribution to this integration of spiritual-sexual-emotional-relationship health and well-being will help create a more egalitarian and compassionate society that respects all beings regardless of sexual orientation and honors the feminine as it does the masculine, in harmony and collaboration.
It especially pains me to see women marginalized, demeaned, and abused by unconscious, inconsiderate, uneducated and hard-hearted men. These women are precious and vital to humanity's growth and betterment -as our mothers, sisters, and daughters. As women gain in self-esteem, value, autonomy and sovereignty—feeling erotically empowered and fulfilled, all of humanity will be raised up and opportunity for right-relationship between men and women will prevail.
I have worked with individuals and couples for 25+ years and have always thrilled to the experience of seeing "the lights go on" for someone—or when a couple with difficulties suddenly feels relief, hope, renewed love or a profound deepening of love between them. I combine insight with experience, strength with tenderness, presence with responsiveness—all to meet the unique needs of each person whose healing/growing path has brought them to have sessions with me.
“How does Sacred Intimacy or Sexual Healing work?”
Sacred Intimacy is a newer term used to describe a uniquely sacred creation of opportunity for very intimate and vulnerable places of the psyche and emotions to be accessed, processed and released as is desired by the recipient... —read more.
“Why do Women come for sessions with you?”
At different stages, or circumstances, in a woman's life she needs a safe and experienced guide to explore or release inhibiting or contracting feelings, beliefs or patterns, associated with emotional or psychological trauma and abuse that effects her experience of intimacy, love, self-worth and well-being. Un-encumbered by a personal relationship between us, women are able to explore and work with their feelings & energy and gain healing, self-knowledge and empowerment.
- To the great detriment of our culture, many women have been sexually, physically, and/or emotionally, wounded and abused and retain traumatic memories, fears and deprecating beliefs, that severely limit their full enjoyment and expression of their sensual/sexual nature.
Sessions with me provide opportunities to allow these stored energy "blocks" or "knots" of contraction or shame, judgment, guilt, and powerlessness to have the opportunity to release, shift, and "heal" within the container of a gentle, safe and experienced presence. These blocks are consciously and carefully allowed space to move out of body-storage and replaced with a sense of healthful empowerment and well-being reestablishing a sense of "wholeness" and self-esteem. - Many women in our culture also don't feel safe enough to let their sexual expression be unconstrained or fully open, and therefore don't receive sexual fulfillment on a deeply enriching level. Sessions provide an opportunity to release the with-holding barriers to experiencing the fullness of a woman's erotic energy without the encumbrances of personal relationships and their reciprocal expectations—or emotional attachments. A woman can relax and open to allowing herself to feel her sensual, erotic energy without constraint or concern for pleasing another. This has a profound therapeutic effect and allows a woman to reclaim her sexual fullness, sensual confidence, and unabashed erotic expression.
- It is rare for women to find men who meet them as spiritual-sexual equals and who bring spiritual acuity and sustained sacred erotic resonance without devolving into superficial gratification. As a Sacred Sex Master, I embody the Priest-Lover archetype and recognize, awaken and nourish the Priestess-Dakini archetype present in the women who have sessions with me. During these sessions, women have the chance to feel "met" by a spiritual man who supports their Priestess-Dakini expression while exploring deeper levels of Tantric knowledge and experience.
- For different reasons, some women are inexperienced with men or being with male erotic energy (including lesbian and bi-curious women) and schedule sessions with me to experiment and/or broaden their experience in a safe, adept, trustworthy container where expectations and boundaries are clear and respected. *See related question below: "Do you have sex with clients?"
- Women often do not receive sincere unconditionally loving touch and acceptance from the men in their life. Or, they may not have any man available to meet their needs of touch and appreciation with unconditional love, acceptance and validation. Sessions with me give a woman the experience of being with a spiritual, supportive man who meets her needs and desires and nurtures her sense of fulfillment and well-being. Thus, a woman can relax and truly receive the loving, nurturing, accepting touch that produces self-acceptance, unity, bodily wholeness, vitality and spiritual-sexual integration.
- Some women have chosen, for one reason or another, to be celibate for some length of time. These women often choose to re-experience or experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container, knowing that nothing is expected of them in return and they can relax into feeling their erotic energy along with my positive male energy and maintain their choice of celibacy.
Some circumstances where women seek sessions with me include: a) she hasn't been in a sexual relationship in a while and wants to reconnect with her erotic energy without expectation for sex or reciprocal treatment, b) for her self esteem—after a breakup, or in-between relationships when she needs to receive positive male attention and stay connected with her sensual energy without jumping into another relationship to receive it, or c) when taking care of her needs for touch and appreciation and staying connected to her sexual energy after health/weight/body image challenges, as exemplified by these email requests:
"I am single and do not have a partner. I have had health problems and have not been in a relationship for a long time. I gained a large amount of weight. My body is back to normal and I am loosing the weight. I am interested in erotic enrichment to reconnect with my body and possibly learning about tantric practice so that when I do enter a relationship I can bring unique skills to the relationship."
"I am going through a major life shift and returning myself to myself, which has been shut down for many years on all levels - spiritual, emotional, sexual. I need to begin to heal these issues, in a safe context with a man who is/can be present with the full realm of all that I am."
“Why do Men come for sessions with you?”
Most of my men clients are gay or bi-sexual and these share with women, in their own way, many of the circumstances mentioned above. Men have also experienced trauma and abuse, and desire the safe and sacred container of our session to release such blockages of: shame, judgment, guilt, and powerlessness.
There are also scant resources in our culture for men to model their masculinity after—in a healthy, balanced, nonjudgmental and grounded way. Some heterosexual men desire to experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container without the expectation of sex. I provide a positive engagement that meets this desire without judgment or any expectation for sex. Whatever their sexual orientation, positive male sensual energy is invaluable to experience and incorporate into a man's life. Men find their time with me to be very nourishing and supportive in this way.
Do you have sex with clients?
No—I am not a sex worker, surrogate, or escort. I do not provide a "date" experience for men or women. My purpose is to serve an individual's or couple's spiritual-sexual integration and expansion through healing and enrichment therapies that include spiritual counseling and addressing the emotional, psychological and physical aspects of well-being.
My personal sexual desire or need for gratification is not fulfilled by the healing sessions I facilitate and our session does not involve my genitals being stimulated or given attention to. The session is focused on being present with your healing process and activating your erotic energy, allowing what wants to be released, experienced, integrated or revealed.
Sexual-sensual, erotic energy is activated and engaged with as an integral tool for uncovering and working with the wounds, blocks, or knots, that are associated with full and enriching experience of sex, intimacy and relationship. Sessions with me do involve sensual and intimate touch—unconditionally loving the body with sacred intention that catalyses holistic energetic shifts and nurtures you at a deep level of being.
Each session is tailored to the needs of each client. Our session has a container of sincerity and openness that asks you to share with me any boundaries, concerns or comfort choices you may have without reservation, knowing that my purpose is to serve your highest good and healthful well-being.
What should I do to prepare / What do I wear for the Sacred Session?
Try to give yourself plenty of pre-session free time to sit quietly and contemplate what you would like to receive from our session together. Take a warm bath or shower to freshen up and begin to relax your body. Try to meditate or sit quietly for at least 30 minutes prior to our session. Wear loose, comfortable clothing to the session so that you arrive feeling at-ease. Clients generally prefer to be unclothed for much of the session. You are welcome to bring, or I also provide, a sarong to wear if desired.
